Have you ever said something you regretted in the heat of the moment? We’ve probably all done it. Maybe it was an argument with a loved one. Or perhaps it was in a meeting when you get frustrated and angry. There are times in our life when anger bubbles up to the surface when you least want it to.
It’s OK to be angry, but there’s a right and wrong way to handle it. Perhaps the best way to manage anger, however, is to head it off at the pass—stop it before it becomes a big outburst that you’ll later regret.
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back. Proverbs 29:11
Giving full vent to your spirit is what leads to those regrettable outbursts. So how do we deal with the anger? Well, too often the temptation is to hold in our anger. Holding your anger in is like sticking some firecrackers in a hollow log and throwing it on the fire. Sooner or later, the fire burns through and sets off the firecrackers. You can imagine how that ends… But read the verse again and notice what it says about dealing with your anger:
… a wise man quietly holds it back. Proverbs 29:11
Did you catch it? God doesn’t tell us to hold our anger in, but to hold it back. We need to deal with the anger, but when we hold it back, there’s a much lower chance of an explosion. And what’s the key to holding back our anger?
Love is not easily angered. 1 Corinthians 13:5
Love is the key to holding back your anger. It’s not easy—love never is. But in Jesus—through His perfect love for you—you can “quietly hold back” your anger, because love is not easily angered.