I once heard a Pastor say: “You can only think as highly of yourself as the most important person in your life thinks of you.” So if that person is an abusive, controlling, mean-spirited individual who constantly puts you down, you won’t think much of yourself. But if the person is kind, loving, and encouraging, always seeing the best in you, you will probably rise to that level.
It’s a challenging statement because it means that others—good or bad—determine your worth. The world offers a much better perspective at first glance: you determine your self-worth. It doesn’t matter what others think, how do you feel about yourself? What do you say?
But which message is true, the former or the latter? Many want to believe the world, that we can determine our own value, but I actually think the opposite is true. Someone else is going to determine your value, not you. But this is actually good news!
Ephesians 1 shows us who God thinks we are. You can read the full section in verses 3-14, but check out these tidbits:
- … blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing … (v. 3)
- … he chose us in him before the foundation of the world … (v. 4)
- … In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace, which he lavished upon us … (v. 7-8)
- … In him we have obtained an inheritance … (v. 11)
- … In him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit … (v. 13)
What if, instead of letting the world or your own sinful self determine your worth and value, you let God determine it? What would happen if He was the most important relationship in your life? It would change everything, because He thinks you’re pretty awesome! You matter to God, and that’s really all that matters.